Just plain soapy water is not going to kill spider mites. Even insecticidal soap doesn’t work well against them. Neem oil is what I would suggest. We sell it as a product called “Bon Neem” which is a combination of pyrethrin and neem oil. You’ll need to thoroughly drench the plants when spraying and spray once a week for 3 weeks to insure control. Pay particular attention to the undersides of the leaves when spraying.